November 02

Slow Down

ROLL UP! ROLL UP! Ladies and gentlemen, girls and boys, GATHER ROUND, for it is my honour, delight, and PLEASURE to introduce to you *drumrolllllllllllll* MR JESTER – one of the Blogosphere’s very finest, most entertainingest wonders. He will dazzle you with words; he will finagle the corners of your imagination; he will leave you […]

October 29


Jealousy is a master storyteller. I imagine jealousy, looking much like the Grinch Who Stole Christmas. Sitting there, greedily devouring all the knowledge in the basement of my brain, planning and plotting and filling in all the missing pieces to create a very convincing work of fiction. Whispering its dark narration into my heart and […]

October 26


Lizzi, Not only did you write this post in less than an hour because I wasn’t able to manage a single word, but you did it because  you love me.  This may not be the best place or way to tell you how much I love and appreciate our friendship but it’s how I am […]

October 22

Flip it and Reverse it in the Man(di) Cave with Pumpkin Spiced Latte (PSL)

It’s that time of the month again. Shut up. I mean, it’s that time of the month for the SisterWives. No we haven’t all migrated to the same cycle. What is wrong with you people? It’s our turn to answer some questions from our guys who were so gracious and fun to answer our questions […]

October 19

Fear and Loathing in the Man(di) Cave

Happy October. Since cobwebs fill the corners of our homes and scary dolls habitat our kitchen windows, we decided it might be best to add a little bit of a fear factor to the Man(di) Cave this month. We’ve asked three men some very dark and twisted questions, and they obliged by offering some even […]

October 15

I Cut

Why are some things cloaked in shame? Why is it that we have to hide our scars? Shame serves to isolate, to keep things in the dark. Those things that people would rather not think about or talk about. Things that don’t make for polite dinner conversation. That is why people like Mari are so […]

October 12

The Last Time I Cut

For some, the only relief is cutting. We have no hard numbers or statistics. Only estimates. Cutting is the kind of thing that is done in private. It’s a closely guarded secret, so numbers are hard to come by. And speaking out about it is an act of bravery. Each time someone talks about their […]

October 08

You Make Me Wanna…..

In the spirit of Straddling Jesus, and keeping with the general bawdy theme this week, I reworked this from my personal blog. In other words, I took out all of the really tacky stuff. Enjoy. ~ Renee Gentlemen: I want to talk about your lingam. Not to be confused with your lingus. Although I am […]

October 06

Straddling Jesus – The Sisterwives Do Dallas

You know those experiences that you look forward to and create such enormous expectations of, that the actual event doesn’t stand a chance? The Sisterwives meet up was NOT one of those. It began when Lizzi, our beautiful Brit, hatched her plan to travel to ‘Murica and meet dozens of beloved online friends. We formed a […]

September 24

The Kids are Alright!

  Everywhere you go, people are concerned about the state of the world today – the state of the economy; the politics; the environment…and ultimately, the state of people’s hearts. We’ve been told of their fears about our children, and the world they will inherit. We’ve listened to deep-seated and seemingly well-founded concerns about how their lives […]

September 21

What Are You Afraid Of?

You’re going where? my mother asks me. To Texas. To meet some of the women I blog with. Don’t do anything daring, she warns Like what? I say. It is 1960’s New Orleans. My mother stands in front of a full length mirror in a dressing room reminiscent of Blanche DuBois. The air ripples from the merciless summer […]

September 17

When We Flip it and Reverse it in Man(di) Cave

On Monday, I introduced you to a few of my friends from Long Awkward Pause. If you missed it click here to get caught up. You’re welcome. Since I’m always the one asking the questions, I thought it might be a little fun to have my guests swap sides with me and a few of […]

September 14

A Long Awkward Pause in the Man(di) Cave

I always look forward to the Man(di)Cave, but this week I’m more than my usual excited. Here’s why. One random Saturday, I sat on my couch watching College Game Day and perusing the internet. I stumbled upon an online humor magazine called Long Awkward Pause (a Humor Mag of Sorts.) I read something called The […]


The Shame of Food Love

Today’s post was submitted by a writer who is a friend of mine, Katie Cross. There are so many adjectives to describe her, I can hardly narrow it down. But I’ll try. She’s selfless, wicked-talented, supportive, generous, funny, approachable, kind, hard-working, adorable, and an award winning novelist. A friendship that seeded in the blogging world, […]


A Labor Day Highlight Reel (according to Mandi)

Every article that we publish means something to us. The story grabs us and makes us think, makes us laugh, sometimes makes us cry. Writing is often the result of bleeding one’s soul onto paper, and we’ve seen a lot of blood here. Beautiful, gripping, powerful blood. Today, I’m offering you a little bit of […]


Back Off

Remember those Yosemite Sam mudflaps that said ‘Back Off’? We need to resurrect that, only we need it as a handy little sign women can flash when they feel threatened. Let me back up a little. I find the aging process a mostly enjoyable and interesting process. I’ve never been more self accepting than I […]

August 27

In Which I Decide Not to Stop Blogging

Originally posted on A Buick in the Land of Lexus:
? “Write what you know…” What DON’T I know? I know music. Not just to listen to, to live to. I’ll talk vinyl vs digital.  Rock vs Bach. I know music facts. Facts that lived inside dusty leather bound volumes of Creem and Rolling Stone;…

August 25

Your “Resting D*ck Face” Is A Problem

Guys, we need to talk. As a friend and an ally, I feel it’s only right that I bring this to your attention. I want to help you be a better you. I want to make you aware of a problem. It’s your Resting Dick Face. I’m sorry. Somebody had to say it. I’m not […]

August 20

‘Liv’ing a Lie

Your writer today is a bright, intelligent, wonderful lady…who is also rather an enigma. I first got to know her goodness-knows-where in the World Between the Wires, and was drawn to the bright avatar of a smiley, blonde-haired child she was using, as well as to her evident wit, humour and kindness. The more I […]

August 14

Is This Thing On? Next week, on Sisterwives…

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Perspective can change our belief system wholly and completely. We can even take on a different perspective to fight jealousy. August 13

Slaying My Green-Eyed Monster

When our air conditioner broke, we had to turn the air off for a few hours. It happened to be one of the hottest, most humid days Chicago has seen in a while. As I was coming into the house from outside, I felt the cool relief of our well-insulated home. The humidity was gone […]

August 10

I’m Feisty for My Age

“The weird thing is, you get more comfortable in yourself, even as time is giving you less reason for it. When you’re young and beautiful, you’re paranoid and miserable. I think one of the great advantages of getting older is that you let go of certain things.”                                                                  ~Helen Mirren Everyone has that moment, I […]

August 06

This Is Who I Am

You may remember Sharon her for her piece, The Picture is Only Perfect in Her Head, where she wrote about being the child of a narcissistic mother. Struggling to define your sexuality is confusing enough in a world that loves to tell you who you are – to do so against the backdrop of abusive relationships can be heartbreaking. Please […]

August 03

Am I Too Angry to Get Laid?

Please welcome my friend and guest poster today, who has chosen to remain anonymous – she is one of the toughest people I know, as well as one of the kindest. She will be the biggest advocate for those she believes in, and a force to be reckoned with for those she does not. She […]

July 30

Sex, Writing and Rock & Roll

  You know when it’s good. The hairs on the back of your neck stand up. Your skin tingles with excitement. Your head is buzzing, humming with anticipation. You feel everything with increased intensity. You feel alive. Electric. You don’t want it to end. The intensity of the moment washes over you, leaving you exhilarated. […]

July 28

Getting To Know Her

The SisterWives have had something huge happen. We’ve expanded. We’ve added to our crazy little family. Chrissy of QuirkyChrissy has agreed to join the love fest that is being a SisterWife. Some of you may have seen her gorgeous yoga pics on Instagram that make some of us a tiny bit envious of her flexibility. […]

July 24


It is true and obvious that men and women are different. Most people would say what makes a woman a female and a man a male is the presence of a vagina or a penis. But it isn’t really that easy is it? Beyond our biology, we are created and develop differently based on our […]

July 20

My Highlight Reel

Soon after I began blogging, I stumbled upon a blog, immediately falling in love. I watched from afar, too afraid to actually comment, but I liked her. A lot. She was cute. She was funny. She was … quirky. Later I found her on Instagram, and my admiration grew into a full on girl crush. […]

July 16

What The Thin Girl Thinks

I’m that quintessential thin girl. 5’3. Size 2. 125 pounds. People guess I weigh anywhere from 100 – 115 and are surprised when I inform them they are incorrect. It’s genetic. My twin was smaller than I am. My sister Rachel had size 3.5 ring fingers. We’re practically hobbits. I never realized that everyone was […]

July 13

How Do You Like Me Now?

What if I’m writing this naked? Does that make me more interesting? Will you still listen to what I have to say if I’m not conventionally pretty? Or young? Not delicate and feminine? Not what you pictured before you read these words? In hooker heels, I’m over six feet tall. I’m a size 16. Those heels would […]

July 10

IS THIS THING ON? Next week, on SisterWives…

                     It’s not fair.                                                                                            You’re lucky you’re so….. I could never do that.                                                                                                        I could never wear that.              She shouldn’t wear that.                                   What is she thinking?                               Fit is sexy.     Real women have curves.                                                                                     You don’t want muscles….                                                      Maybe you should eat a salad?                                                                                                     Go eat a sandwich!                   […]

July 09

In a world so quick to judge, just #BeReal

This is a first for SisterWives – not only are we on trend, but thanks to Hasty, we ARE the trend – yesterday, in response and outrage at the #DontJudgeMe tag (where people post ‘before and after’ pics of themselves in an Ugly Duckling transformation to show their (now) levels of beauty and acceptability), this […]

July 06

Learning to REBEL

Last week on Sisterwives, Beth knocked us all sideways with her courageous honesty and her battle cry in favour of a movement which is gaining momentum (especially online) at the moment – that all people (but most especially women, who seem to (for many and varied reasons) cop the worst of this body-image shit) accept […]

July 03

IS THIS THING ON? Next week on Sisterwives

*taps mic and finds it utterly dead* *blows into it, says “Testing, 1, 2, 3…” and hopes that mic magically works* *catches foot in wire, nearly falls down, and realises mic was never plugged in*   *plugs in mic, switches on, and continues as though nothing happened*   SO…last week we had a look at […]

July 02


Since this week’s theme is metamorphosis, I thought this would be a great opportunity to write about a change that’s taken place within my perspective. It’s happened very slowly over the past two years and was sort of forced on me. That will make more sense by the end of this. It’s a subject I’ve […]

June 29


“A change of the form or nature of a thing or person into a completely different one, by natural or supernatural means.” I think we can all agree we go through many overhauls in our lifetime. Through life choices or circumstance, we evolve. The real prize is being able to look back at our former […]

June 25

The Man(di) Cave Gets Intimate (Kind of)

Turn down the lights. Pull on something more comfortable. I have a treat for you today. I’ve invited some very special guests to join me in the Man(di) Cave, and we are getting a little … er … ahem … intimate. Come on in. Sit down. Take off your shoes. Let me introduce you to […]

June 22

Seven Simple Tips To Make Her Happy

Each month, the SisterWives have dedicated at least one day to getting inside the mind of a man, three men actually, when we invite our favorite male bloggers to enlighten us on some of the things we (I’m speaking for women here) question about them. We haven’t necessarily played fair though, so today, I’m opening […]

June 18

Reality Cuts In

There is something magical about living inside words. Stories sweep us off our feet and carry us into worlds we’d never otherwise get to visit.  Narratives allow us to fall in love, battle enemies, destroy evil, and share any number of emotions inside the safe and harmless imaginary landscape of fantasy. I have personally lived […]

June 15

One-Hundred Proof

Sometimes it’s as simple as a line from a familiar song, heard when you don’t expect it. That’s all it takes to trigger a memory, to send you back to where you know you shouldn’t go – but you go anyway. Please welcome Amy Noble, who writes with such rich, authentic, emotion that her story almost leaves behind a trace, […]


Is This Thing On? Next Week, on Sisterwives….

This past week, we explored sexuality and shame, exploration and oppression, and expressed our views on the purity movement. FUCK YOU, PURITY. It seems only natural to move on the next thing: Love & Lust. We have a sensory delight from Amy Noble that will stay in your head all day, and the lovely Hasty Words will bring […]

June 11

Fuck You Purity.

A group of young girls sit in a circle in a dimly lit room. They are trying not to giggle as they listen to the group leader talk. They squirm uncomfortably at the mention of certain words. Sex. Virginity. Lust. Their snickers stop and their backs stiffen at the next word uttered. Purity. The group leader then passes around […]

June 08

She Will Be Loved

Growing up can be such a confusing time. Things happen and sometimes we’re not sure what to make of them. The confusion, the secrecy, the shame. These feelings can shape a young mind. It’s not until a few decade’s worth of hindsight that we can see things from a different perspective. Carly of Growing Butterflies […]

June 05

Is This Thing On? Next Week On the SisterWives

We will be pushing boundaries and pushing buttons next week on the SisterWives. Sexual exploration and experimentation, religious guilt, the purity movement. No holding back. No holds barred. Hang on, it might get bumpy… Advertisements

June 04

I’ll Change

One day, I’ll change You’ll be the first one that I call I owe you an apology Too many thanks, and that’s not all ‘Cause I been runnin’ long before I learned to crawl. ~The Indigo Girls 1989 That guy. The one who charms a woman with the grace and ease that he lights a stolen smoke off a borrowed zippo. The woman […]

June 01

Come As You Are

There have been a few moments in my life when I have found myself at a critical crossroad. I find myself asking myself the simple questions: Are you happy? Is it worth it? Unfortunately, a few of those times landed right in the middle of an alcohol and drug addiction, when I was already living […]

May 29

Is This Thing On? Next Week, on SisterWives…

Addicts. Enablers. Toxic relationships. Labels can sometimes make us forget that there are people behind them, and that there are two sides to every story. Sometimes those stories fit together perfectly. Join us next week.             Advertisements

May 28

Getting you back to YOU

We’ve had a spate of posts lately where there has been discussion about the best way to go about life, or the best way to be. There has been huge encouragement both in the writing and in the Sisterwives community – our readers and supporters have demonstrated that ‘together we’re stronger’, and to observe the […]

May 25

Castles in the air

Did you ever read a piece which resonated so deeply you felt your soul begin to resonate, shivering at the edges as though a bell had been struck in the midst of silence. Have you ever sat as the words flow into your mind, create neural pathways of new thoughts, like trees growing at high […]

November 19

Is Your Love Big Enough? The Syrian Refugee Crisis

Photo Credit – Freedom House We at the Sisterwives have had the Syrian refugees on our hearts very much this week. The opinion war waging in our country has weighed on us and has prompted a number of us to speak out. In light of this, we decided to link those posts together here. We […]